This morning i posted a selfie on instagram. I don’t really see the issue with selfies. It’s just a picture. Someone posted a comment “No need for the constant selfies”. Now the funny thing is that when i finished up at the gym this morning i wanted to share with people that i had really struggled this morning to get out of bed. I wanted to say that motivation is always a constant. That we all struggle but that we can still push through. I wanted to do this because from talking to people it seems they assume i just bounce out of bed and skip to the gym with joy in my heart. Somedays i do and on others i really don’t.
Motivation dips for all of us but what we chose to do when it does is a test. I chose a selfie as i sat in the carpark to go with the mini story i wanted to share. To be honest i was in a rush, i really wanted to use a quote but i couldn’t find one that was relative so i just chose a selfie that looked friendly and smiley. I posted it. Looked at my insta account and thought ‘OMG you have posted a lot of selfies this week”. I felt a pang of shame and i actually questioned myself “people might think you’re vain and that you think your too nice”. Then thought “it’s a bloody picture, you’re a grown woman you can do as you please, you are not hear to worry about other people so don’t be so stupid get on with your day”
Here’s the funny part. The guy who posted the comment “No need for constant selfies” was only mirroring something that i had thought myself. He was only pointing out my own insecurity. Life has a funny way of doing that. Then we get upset when people say what we say to ourselves. He was only judging me in away i was judging myself. I dare say if had never thought that this morning he would never have posted that comment. “your perception of me is a reflection of you” and visa versa.
I realised that whilst people might suggest if someone is forever posting selfies that they are self obsessed or egotistical it’s their. If i chose to follow them and see there pictures i make it my business. If overtime i see them post and all i feel is negativity it would surely make sense for me to unfollow them rather than have negative thoughts which never harm the other person they only harm us. Our perhaps i would question what is it about me that makes me feel this way about this person for posting a selfie? Remember “your perception of me is a reflection of you”.
Be kind, be nonjudgemental and the world will be the same back.
Love and light,